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Dr Gabor Maté | Don’t Ignore Your Own Needs (Part 3) 

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We tend to believe that normality equals health. Yet what is the norm in the Western world? Joining us live on stage in London - in conversation with filmmaker and author David Malone - the renowned physician, addiction expert and author Gabor Maté dissects the underlying causes of this malaise - physical and emotional, and connects the dots between our personal suffering and the pressures of modern-day living.
Illness and trauma are defining how we live. 45% of Europeans suffer high blood pressure, and nearly 70% of Americans take at least one prescription drug.
Over four decades of clinical experience, Dr Gabor Maté has found that the common definition of ‘normal’ is false: virtually all disease is actually a natural reflection of life in an abnormal culture, as we grow further and further apart from our true selves.
Filled with stories of people in the grip of illness or in the triumphant wake of recovery, this life-affirming talk from the beloved physician and author will show how true health is possible - if we are willing to embrace authenticity above social expectations.
Gabor Maté is a retired physician, bestselling author and renowned speaker, highly sought after for his expertise on addiction, trauma, stress and childhood development. He has written four bestselling books published in nearly thirty languages, including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction. He has been awarded the Order of Canada (his country’s equivalent of the MBE) and the Civic Merit Award from his hometown, Vancouver, for his ground-breaking medical work and writing.
David Malone is a filmmaker and TV presenter whose documentaries include Testing God, Soul Searching (both Channel 4), Dangerous Knowledge and The Secret Life of Waves (both BBC). He is the author of The Debt Generation.

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@lillumination5388
I got so sucked into the needs of my parents, society pressure to be formatted, then husband, kids, career so-to-speak... that after leaving the abusive spouse, I was so estranged from myself that it took me 2 years to start shopping food for my own needs, for example. For I lost myself in that abyss of being a mother Teresa.
@newflower8974
@newflower8974 Yıl önce
🙏🏽
@richardsmith6083
Good to have you back!😊
@jasmineglein3721
@jasmineglein3721 11 aylar önce
I am not Mother Teresa but I was on my way being ONE
@hortensejones4050
@hortensejones4050 11 aylar önce
My parents passed away already 20 years ago (I was their caretaker for decades); my husband suddenly died a few years ago . I’m in my 60’s & just beginning to discover what I like-food, colors, styles, activities-I didn’t even know that I didn’t know almost anything about myself! Extremely embarrassed but grateful for the opportunity!
@rubytuesday7653
@rubytuesday7653 11 aylar önce
I feel dead now. Like a zombie. No life. No family. No friends. No community. Not one thing left .
@Cherabreena
@Cherabreena 9 aylar önce
I find this to be absolutely true. I spent the majority of my life being a people pleaser and my health suffered greatly. It wasn’t until I entered my thirties and finally learned to set boundaries and leave every toxic relation behind, that my health started flourishing. Especially after leaving my last relationship of 4+ years where I’d started suffering from anxiety after being traumatized by the person’s actions. My blood pressure was high despite eating super healthy. Sleep was terrible. Crying at night. My face broke out constantly. Migraines started becoming frequent (never suffered from that before) sudden ear/hearing problems that no doctors could explain. My period went haywire. Lots of physical symptoms. A month after I left and went no contact with this person all of those symptoms disappeared. ALL OF THEM! AFTER 1 MONTH!! That’s when I learned the true meaning of the word ‘toxic’ when it comes to human interactions. Choose your company CAREFULLY!!
@ColargolPL
@ColargolPL 5 aylar önce
Lucky you to have learned it so EARLY on! No irony.
@Cherabreena
@Cherabreena 3 aylar önce
@@ColargolPL Thank you. I wish I had learned earlier, but here we are! Lots of lessons learned, lots of inner work and change of environment.
@chadmichael_
@chadmichael_ Yıl önce
My Rheumatoid Arthritis (which I was diagnosed with at 30) was the cure. It was my body metaphorically trying to tell me something. I am 32 and off all medications. I sometimes take a low dose of prednisone every once in awhile but I don’t make a big deal anymore about a minor flare up. I just think, “what stresses did I let into my life without standing up for my own needs” and I move on. I’m getting better at that everyday with practice. My rheumatologist is perplexed and annoyed by me. You’d think he’d be happy for me. Same with my primary care physician.
@clarabelle777
@clarabelle777 Yıl önce
Pharma doesn’t make money off fit and healthy people, or people with a mindset like yours 💪
@questioneverything7582
Most of the more severe illnesses happen to people by an upsetting event happening in their lives that takes them by surprise, unexpectedly, impacting first in the brain, then in the corresponding organ which that part of the brain controls. The end of WWI had absolutely everything to do with the Flu and lung TB outbreak that occurred killing millions. In nature, the biological conflict linked with a territorial fear (just what it means-a fear in your territory, your home, your community, etc.) is a widening of the bronchia (tissue loss). Your body attempts to widen your bronchia in order to allow more air into your lungs to give you more strength and energy to fight to keep your territory safe. Stay with me.......The biological conflict linked with a death fright impacts the lungs. The lungs attempt to grow larger in order to allow more air in because breath equals life, as we all know. No breath equals death. Why are so many people across the world suddenly having their appendix removed? The appendix is associated with “being in fear for one’s life”. The HEALING phase is the rupture/inflammation. While you are in the fear or death fright conflict, you notice no symptoms of “disease”, except you have cold hands, cold feet, you can’t sleep, you awaken at 3 AM every night, you have little appetite. During the war, millions of people were in fear of the bombing of their homes and cities where the war was most active. Fearing for their lives, their loved ones in the war, their ability to survive. The food in the stores was sparse due to shortages. This lasted for 4 long years! The longer the conflict, the worse the healing phase. Within 2 weeks of the German Chancellor announcing the end of WWI, these millions of people ALL went into the healing phase all at the same time. It is during the healing phase that you experience symptoms of illness! What is the healing phase of the bronchia widening? Severe bronchitis, pneumonia. The body attempts to refill this lost tissue and you experience inflammation, fever, coughing, body aches, fatigue, etc. What is the healing phase of the extra lung tissue that grew? Decomposing of the tissue by TB bacteria and fungi. The symptoms of this healing phase are: severe coughing up of blood and tissue, fever, inflammation, severe mucous, body aches, fatigue. During this decomposing of the extra tissue (tumor), the body expels a lot of protein, and without replenishment, severe protein loss can result in death. Antibiotics did not exist yet. If TB bacteria does not exist in a person or they have been vaccinated against TB (big mistake), then the tumor will simply encapsulate and become dormant and not harm you. Who died during the Spanish Flu? Mainly the poor who could not afford to buy meat and proper nourishment, and the people who were directly impacted by the bombings and destruction of their homes. Millions of people suffered fear and death frights during the fighting of WWI, and millions of people all went into healing at the end of it. Not everyone was affected because not everyone suffered the same way. It’s not a “flu”, it’s not something you “catch”. It’s biological, meaningful, and unavoidable. One hundred years later, a Fear Campaign begins, using the media to spread it......
@cherylbailey4803
You go Chad! What a great story, thank you for sharing. As we all start following our gut again we will all heal!
@chadmichael_
@chadmichael_ Yıl önce
@@questioneverything7582 That was actually very insightful. Thank you for sharing that. Honestly. As far as the fear campaigns being in bad faith or just out of straight up ignorance, we'll never really know but I definitely lean on the side of what my own experiences have shown me with my own health and that is, the body is trying to speak up for you. It's trying to say something. It's trying to keep you alive and if you listen closely, you can learn a lot about what it actually needs and how it can actually stay healthy. For me, it was becoming hyper aware of chronic stress and trauma triggers that make me feel in conflict or in fight or flight. Staying out of the fight or flight or away from anything that triggers it as best I can within the boundaries of my financial limitations has helped me tremendously. Its not always easy to say no to coming into work on a day I didn't want to come in when I am struggling financially but I have definitely gotten better at setting boundaries and making sure I get what I need to do my job without compromise. Things are getting better because of it. Also just becoming aware of where all these traumas and coping styles originated from so that I can get better at going against them when they let in so much stress.
@chadmichael_
@chadmichael_ Yıl önce
@@cherylbailey4803 Thank you for your support.
@MissNamaSlay
@MissNamaSlay 9 aylar önce
Our families sometimes are the cause of most our sufferings and we .. never blame them . We are wiser.. we are more compassionate and we suffer . I’m so grateful for having meditation .. yoga .. the intellect to see exactly what I need to do , for my adult peace . Generation breakers have the toughest times but we can prevail if we change our minds ! It’s never to late to be better , to keep trying and to want more !
@LOVE_N_F
@LOVE_N_F 8 aylar önce
😢😢😢
@MelanieWilliams1976
@MelanieWilliams1976 8 aylar önce
Yes I’m the generational breaker, healing many generations of martyrdom and being responsible for self not others……
@vanessablanc2074
@vanessablanc2074 8 aylar önce
I love the term you used, “generation breakers”!
@fredericotacio3473
@fredericotacio3473 3 aylar önce
I'm also a generational breaker, but I wanted a bit of peace.
@emiirozenn
@emiirozenn 2 aylar önce
🙏❤️❤️
@April-if6xo
@April-if6xo 7 aylar önce
Big Thanks!, Dr. Maté. I am almost 71 years old and recently I realized, without having watched your excellent videos, that I was lacking authenticity. I was doing everything possible and silencing myself to please my sons, big men now. I had to "cut" -"my" attachments - being a single parent since they were 6 & 7. It was not easy, but I am living in tranquility, cleaned all expectations about calls -never arrived-, a moment to see them -for what I was telling mistakenly myself that I was just breathing to have one single minute to see them again. I am free now, and probably, I have freed them as well. I am not a child, I moved to another place, and I have peace-health, hopefully in my body as in my mind. Big Thanks!, again. You are helping me to see that I made the right decision, one of the most important and tough of my life. Love 💓
@MelanieWilliams1976
@MelanieWilliams1976 8 aylar önce
This was so me and I developed severe chronic fatigue and CPTSD because I wasn’t looking at it, my body basically shut down, it’s been a 9 year journey slowly healing the suffering I’ve held for others and slowly trying to believe I deserve to look after myself on all levels. It’s still difficult.
@aleynamutlu4206
@aleynamutlu4206 5 aylar önce
Who taught you to deny your own needs cause those needs made someone uncomfortable ? Your needs are valid too you are a human being. I hope you can get well soon.
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 2 aylar önce
Similar experience for different reasons.
@rachelsspaceyogabreathsoun7954
Gabor is soo on point. My mother has MS and I observed she had no self esteem and put other people needs before herself. I repeated the cycle which was also wrapped in child trauma of needed to tend my parents needs to keep myself safe. My nervous system was soo deregulated I spent years in fight mode then to freeze and collapse. I have many symptoms that align with an auto immune disease. It’s a minute by minute process to put myself and my needs first. I’m reformed people pleaser and in a way the symptoms that I experience are a gift and stop me from doing to much and not living from an authentic place. I have found yoga particularly restorative , meditation, IFS, reiki, sound healing vagus nerve activation, compassion practices, talk therapy, somatic experiencing, building community connection with other women that is heart based. I know it possible to heal and I am soo grateful to Gabor for he’s incredible work.
@RobynBelleHorton
@RobynBelleHorton 11 aylar önce
❤️
@icanletgo-recoveryfromhoar537
WORD. I am dealing with hoarding issues. I no longer say, "I have hoarding disorder" because I don't want to give "it" that power over me. I also no longer hate myself for the hoarding issues. They are a coping mechanism that enabled me to survive childhood trauma. And now my Inner Adult is working on helping my Inner Child heal 🙏😌💕✨
@SuperLammens
@SuperLammens Yıl önce
I belief you will be successfull
@rubytuesday7653
@rubytuesday7653 Yıl önce
May you heal .....fast🌿♥️🌿
@tracasavadogo3992
Check out the course for Holistic Life Navigation. It’s been a game changer for me.
@icanletgo-recoveryfromhoar537
@@tracasavadogo3992 Thank you for sharing that... I'll check it out!
@icanletgo-recoveryfromhoar537
@@SuperLammens Thank you so much!
@gratefultobehere
Needed to hear it’s healthy to have that boundary with anger sometimes. Thank you. Was feeling guilty about exercising a healthy boundary and then it was violated so this message is medication. Healing.
@yvonneshanson1525
Set a program where you congratulate yourself for even a small amount of anger and externalization of indignation or discomfort in any given situation, esp in front of others. Imagine yourself as a child that needs this exact reaffirmation.. do it for as long as it takes to heal yourself 🩵😊
@gratefultobehere
@@yvonneshanson1525 thank you. Never considered it before - mind opening.
@yvonneshanson1525
@yvonneshanson1525 11 aylar önce
@Chelsea Peterson happy i coiuld help a fellow survivor 😊! ..our inner child deserves her emotions to be honored to the fullest.. wishing u the best 💚
@shenanklinger-fenech8205
Thank you Dr. Mate for helping me understand that taking care of my own needs is not just something I ought to try out or some new age trend. It is my biggest duty and highest priority to take care of my own needs in order to stay healthy, well balanced and able to care for others in a better way.
@stephanieluckey7825
@stephanieluckey7825 10 aylar önce
100%!!! If we don’t care for ourselves our loved ones will end up caring the weight!!! Only when we stand up strong can we be someone’s shoulder to lean on.
@denise2169
@denise2169 4 aylar önce
For me, I was totally alone as a child, having been bullied at school. As an adult, the only way I found some connection with other people was if I was helping them. Just this week, my face reacted by swelling, becoming red and painful, and I am feeling overwhelmed at not taking care of my own self. I must listen to my feelings and put myself first.
@cathihargaden1608
@cathihargaden1608 9 aylar önce
This guy is great- I’m health professional and been in thousands of homes one day I said there’s a pattern to people with certain conditions and their root was emotional- I also had a child disease I write about it like Gabor but people resist making the connection his truths expressed r wide and far reaching ❤
@gethelp6271
@gethelp6271 9 aylar önce
Isn't German New Medicine about this sort of concept?
@jas_bataille
@jas_bataille 9 aylar önce
I'm a child cancer survivor, I was 8 years old and the tumour was supposed to take 20 years to grow. I'm also autistic - interestingly enough, autistic people tend not to say that they "have" autism, rather than it's an inextricable part of us! I didn't thought about my other diseases that way before now. I was bullied and micro-managed all my childhood and in early adulthood as well. My parents are the "nice guys" and I come from a family of people exactly like you describes. Despite my mom being into natural remedies and alternative medicine quite heavily, she keeps on radically denying any connection between body and mind and refuses to look into any implication of her actions and that of my dad on me as a child. It's been now many years and I'm tired, I've been living with chronic pain numerous conditions. The last one of them is asthma from unknown causes, I stopped breathing and I would've been dead if I was alone at home like most time. After this much time I feel like I finally have a proper answer. Thank you so much Dr!
@0123hellooooo
@0123hellooooo 6 aylar önce
Hello fellow Aspie! Take care of yourself, you are worth it!
@greenthumb8266
@greenthumb8266 6 aylar önce
♥️
@lifeslessons9889
I adhere and gravitate to this genius… he talks such wisdom and logic. I’ve had stress in my adult life from 31- 60 . I’m left with high cholesterol, gum Disease and type two diabetes… I’m actively working on repairing myself with diabetes meds . I’m not surprised of my health issues… as a child I was constantly trying to gain love and respect..as an adult I craved love and took the wrong choices . I was widowed and pregnant at age 35 ..my entire life has been a struggle..independently.
@ekenechristyike5461
God will stand by you and send Yelp your way IJN Amen. You are here today after all the stressful journey you've been through, you will come out on top after all said and done. I feel same too. But I try to take a day at a time...not bothering about tomorrow cos it usually stresses me the more. I'm getting better praise God 🙏
@annajones4355
@annajones4355 9 aylar önce
Perhaps all your health issues are due to high cortisol or cortisol resistance. I've been learning about this recently... From abusive childhood I went from one to another to another abusive relationship not knowing any better. Focusing on being the best wife, mother, daughter, friend, I didn't have a clue what my needs have been. I'm 47 and I'm learning this now. I feel like a kid, but I suppose it's never too late! ;) All my life I felt alone and in highly stressed state. Where it got me now are these two components, to bring back my cortisol to normal level (there are good videos out there on affects of chronic stress and high cortisol linked to soo many health problems) and learning about myself and taking care of my Self the way we were meant to. ❤
@Tammissa
@Tammissa 5 aylar önce
I was just like that. I’d feel so sorry for other’s problems that I put my own happiness and family second. It was so hard to say no. I’ve learned a lot and can say no much easier now. I learned the hard way.
@UXtatic
@UXtatic 10 aylar önce
So glad Maté is getting his truly proper due. Started watching him 4 years ago in the midst of a family member's cancer journey. As an observer, I saw exactly what he was saying.😔😔😔😔
@nerudaad
@nerudaad Yıl önce
I hope his message is heard by as many as possible
@mohammedf.al-ghamdi2090
There is a fine line between needs and desires. Our minds should be able to detect the differences.
@InterestedCitizen
@InterestedCitizen 8 aylar önce
Dr. Gabor Mate is a real gift❤️
@tonistrother8266
@tonistrother8266 5 aylar önce
I have a high regard for Gabor Mate’s teaching. I often wonder whether he has happiness, or contentment, in his life. I wish that it be true.
@marybrantly581
@marybrantly581 11 aylar önce
I love Gabor! His work has changed my life. What an awakening! Thank you from my whole heart!
@majagoedegebuur9451
@majagoedegebuur9451 11 aylar önce
Yes my to,Its wunderful.! Amazing whats happend whit me when Ise this .
@Jo-kh1yo
@Jo-kh1yo 10 aylar önce
Louise Hay talked about this in her book "You can heal your life" there is a section in the book with an alphabetical list of diseases and their metaphysical causes.
@rochellecaffee1417
@rochellecaffee1417 6 aylar önce
Jesus tells his people, “DO NOT be afraid”, 365 times in the Bible. Fear is the “bottom level” to stress. I love what you are helping people understand. Thank you.❤😊
@henoheno4686
@henoheno4686 Yıl önce
Legend Mr mate. This man needs to be heard..
@suzanesugrue1080
@suzanesugrue1080 11 aylar önce
Yes, yes and yes
@jandrews6254
@jandrews6254 11 aylar önce
This realisation came to me after having flown in aircraft umpteen times and hearing the instruction to put on your own O2 mask before helping anyone else, even your child. Of course! If you don’t grab your mask and put it on, instead putting a mask on anyone else, you black out! And your usefulness ends right there. So, care for your own needs so that you be of use to others.
@piperselinger9428
@piperselinger9428 9 aylar önce
This is all true. I was diagnosed with Hashimoto’s disease in my thirties. I am thankful because self care is now my number one priority. Our minds can convince us to keep moving forward in spite of everything but our bodies never lie to us. I grew up in a family dynamic that encouraged me to suppress my feelings and this continued into adulthood. I have no doubt this is the cause of my Hashimoto’s. I have done a lot of inner work and meditate every day. After a demanding career and having a family I can now step into part time work and take time for myself.
@narcisismoabuso69
@narcisismoabuso69 3 aylar önce
Lucky me to have learned it so EARLY! I believe in doing good in life, and getting closer to the spirit world has helped me. I drop anything that is bad. Pretty fast. I get up and go.
@iammeallday
@iammeallday 4 aylar önce
I went into a mental health crisis chronic anxiety at the age of 38 constantly taking care of others the stress of it and demand of it was consuming it's still a struggle
@timhardman9386
@timhardman9386 Yıl önce
Anger is a boundary defense. YES. It is healthy when acting as a protection system against being invaded. THANKS. What a nice way of putting it. Great. 👍🏻😉🚀
@sassi7966
@sassi7966 11 aylar önce
Exactly 💯 My breakdown, chronic fatigue syndrome and mental illnesses were virtually inevitable! I didn't stand a chance from conception! And yes I have now taken responsibility for myself because I finally recognised the problem... But it seems to be too late! I can't correct things anymore! 😭
@rosemaryallen2128
@rosemaryallen2128 9 aylar önce
It's never too late. A big set of problems takes a big effort and a lot of time to sort out, but the answer is always to take the smallest manageable steps at a time.
@mirafilipovic5162
My dear colleague, you are a blessing; i have just discovered your videos and love the way you explain things so that even lay people can understand! Thank you for sharing your knowledge and expertise!
@greentree730
@greentree730 11 aylar önce
I had arthritis in both knees, elbows, fingers, and a toe. I knew as the dr was telling me what pills to take and how to keep moving through the pain. That I would Never live with this!!! I fasted and went to a healing room a month later, some strangers prayed for me in Jesus name. I had to forgive someone as well. I walked out 30 minutes later without arthritis and have never had it again. It was a decision I made in faith, I believed in miracles. It wasn't going to be diet thing, it was going to be a completely healed thing.
@avl6110
@avl6110 10 aylar önce
Thank you for this insightful and powerful video. Where can I find part 1 and part 2 please? Thank you 🙏
@jamlaw
@jamlaw 9 aylar önce
This resonates with me. Also the conflicting message of being a saintly, giving person in society and not being selfish is hard for me to balance at times. (Not that I'm single by any means! Just the idea of being a Mother Teresa type, having compassion and love and giving to others ..)
@ElizofAmerica
@ElizofAmerica 9 aylar önce
When I’m being my authentic self people think I’m angry when I’m not just expressing my needs more
@winendesertrose
@winendesertrose 5 aylar önce
I get angry and act out if my needs are not met. Definitely taking a break from the delusional type people. I've stopped keeping my mouth shut and enabling or just stay away. Lol. Just yesterday I heard one of my clients refer to me as 'nice' yeah I'm nice to a point -just don't use me as a doormat or entertain dullusions ( anymore).
@surpriseguest37
@surpriseguest37 5 aylar önce
I can strongly relate to this, people pleasing destroyed my life
@yourguidetolove7457
@yourguidetolove7457 11 aylar önce
Wow powerful video!! I’m definitely working on honoring my own needs first.
@Miksariana
@Miksariana 10 aylar önce
Dr Gabor is one of its kind🙌🏻🙌🏻 yet just thinking out loud ..if we have so many cancers (epidemics of it) but environment is toxic ..does one doesn't rule out the other?
@moniqueocean
@moniqueocean 10 aylar önce
In a way our environment is a reflection of our state of minds as humanity.. we now know the whole world is an interconnected ecosystem, this can be observed in biology, physics, chemistry and quantum physics.
@Henry-zp4zc
@Henry-zp4zc 5 aylar önce
What a gift ❤
@joshuablack8221
@joshuablack8221 Yıl önce
Great information! Thank you for this… 🙏🏽
@richardhall5489
@richardhall5489 Yıl önce
The question at the start of this video was "..how does that happen!" With reference to people who are over helpful. I found that psychologist Dr Laurence Heller's NARM model answered this question for me in terms of survival strategies. This is a compassionate way of summarising behaviour patterns that's free from labelling and pathologizing and consequently judgements and stigma. So for example if you were disempowered through trauma as a child then giving your power away to make other people happy is a perfectly legitimate short term survival strategy. It can become a problem as you get older and are unaware that you can behave any differently. My understanding is that Gabor Mate's Compassionate Inquiry approach and NARM are essentially different versions of the same thing.
@questioneverything7582
Most of the more severe illnesses happen to people by an upsetting event happening in their lives that takes them by surprise, unexpectedly, impacting first in the brain, then in the corresponding organ which that part of the brain controls. The end of WWI had absolutely everything to do with the Flu and lung TB outbreak that occurred killing millions. In nature, the biological conflict linked with a territorial fear (just what it means-a fear in your territory, your home, your community, etc.) is a widening of the bronchia (tissue loss). Your body attempts to widen your bronchia in order to allow more air into your lungs to give you more strength and energy to fight to keep your territory safe. Stay with me.......The biological conflict linked with a death fright impacts the lungs. The lungs attempt to grow larger in order to allow more air in because breath equals life, as we all know. No breath equals death. Why are so many people across the world suddenly having their appendix removed? The appendix is associated with “being in fear for one’s life”. The HEALING phase is the rupture/inflammation. While you are in the fear or death fright conflict, you notice no symptoms of “disease”, except you have cold hands, cold feet, you can’t sleep, you awaken at 3 AM every night, you have little appetite. During the war, millions of people were in fear of the bombing of their homes and cities where the war was most active. Fearing for their lives, their loved ones in the war, their ability to survive. The food in the stores was sparse due to shortages. This lasted for 4 long years! The longer the conflict, the worse the healing phase. Within 2 weeks of the German Chancellor announcing the end of WWI, these millions of people ALL went into the healing phase all at the same time. It is during the healing phase that you experience symptoms of illness! What is the healing phase of the bronchia widening? Severe bronchitis, pneumonia. The body attempts to refill this lost tissue and you experience inflammation, fever, coughing, body aches, fatigue, etc. What is the healing phase of the extra lung tissue that grew? Decomposing of the tissue by TB bacteria and fungi. The symptoms of this healing phase are: severe coughing up of blood and tissue, fever, inflammation, severe mucous, body aches, fatigue. During this decomposing of the extra tissue (tumor), the body expels a lot of protein, and without replenishment, severe protein loss can result in death. Antibiotics did not exist yet. If TB bacteria does not exist in a person or they have been vaccinated against TB (big mistake), then the tumor will simply encapsulate and become dormant and not harm you. Who died during the Spanish Flu? Mainly the poor who could not afford to buy meat and proper nourishment, and the people who were directly impacted by the bombings and destruction of their homes. Millions of people suffered fear and death frights during the fighting of WWI, and millions of people all went into healing at the end of it. Not everyone was affected because not everyone suffered the same way. It’s not a “flu”, it’s not something you “catch”. It’s biological, meaningful, and unavoidable. One hundred years later, a Fear Campaign begins, using the media to spread it......
@user-wp7zn8ii5u
@user-wp7zn8ii5u Yıl önce
Excellent explanation, thank you.
@karnaud6352
@karnaud6352 9 aylar önce
​@@questioneverything7582I'm very sympathetic to your point but I think you will find some of the epidemiology of the spanish flu victims more complex than the gloss you have provided, and so people who are critical of your views may unfairly dismiss you generally because of this. As I understand it, the spanish flu affected and killed younger more robust people more quickly and more often than the rest, and it did so because it operated on parts of the body associated with better lung function. Just fyi as I was reading through, I'm happy to be corrected by more knowledgeable people
@kenzielove99
@kenzielove99 8 aylar önce
This lecture is blowing my mind
@62Cristoforo
@62Cristoforo Yıl önce
The human species has always baffled me, since I was old enough to perceive people’s thoughts and actions. Here is a man explaining to the world, finally, the mechanism of cancer in the human body, and there’s 22 comments.
@shereenmakhanye9239
The mind grapples with simple information, that’s why the human suffering.
@sid32ful
@sid32ful 5 aylar önce
This CD has three separate relaxation/meditation sessions on it trvid.comUgkxzpa8CIfZcihW4Z0F_ja0QF3W9KIatrsq guided by a very pleasant and direct male voice. Unlike so many other products of its type, this CD does not have bad synthesizer music, does not feature a phony or affected style of narration, and does not make any bogus claims to be subliminal or to re-train the brain or any of that balderdash. What you get is 1. a guided meditation for getting into a pleasantly relaxed state of body awareness while taking a stroll (superb for those easing back into a fitness routine slowly after an illness or injury) 2. A nice long breath-awareness relaxation session that if followed diligently can put you into very deep states of full-body relaxation and mental calmness, and 3. a buddhist-inspired meditation session designed to help you develop and maintain feelings of loving kindness toward not just yourself and your friends, but toward people you don't even like. The CD makes no claims to be designed for advanced meditators or for buddhists or hindus/yoga practitioners looking for very deep and esoteric stuff. It is geared more toward the average person who just wants to develop the habit of relaxation and stress relief through natural, healthy means. him, if you happen to be reading this, keep up the good work fella, and I love your accent. I would also like to note that I have never fallen asleep while listening to this product. I would like to kindly suggest to the reviewer who said this CD makes him fall asleep, that he might want to get checked to see if he has a sleep disorder, or if he is simply not setting aside ample time for restful sleep at night. A healthy person getting adequate rest at night should be able to go into deep states of mental relaxation without dozing off, if not all the time, then most of the time.
@saida817
@saida817 11 aylar önce
It’s so sad the fact that I’ve been like that unconsciously trying to please everybody not to lose connection, go out of my way to take care of others in the expense of my own, o thought that’s the only way I can be loved, after all autoimmune disorders, lots of health problems, loneliness-and friends and family doesn’t need you anymore, they got used to benefit from you and now not only they can’t benefit but also I’m in a state of need, emotional, physical, financial
@chaz7604
@chaz7604 10 aylar önce
I feel the same way completely ❤
@Of_Lore
@Of_Lore 6 aylar önce
One thing I need to disagree with, in my life personally, that I wish Dr Mate would take into consideration, is that not everyone experiences the trauma that ends up shaping you and gives you these results of poor health etc in childhood. What about people who end up married to abusers? Or my situation! I had a great childhood even though I had an alcoholic father, they were just funny stories that we would hear about to do with my father's escapades, he and his friend changed seats when they got pulled over and one of them was drunk driving, my dad woke up the whole house one night when he was sitting in front of the stereo on the floor with headphones on, but he had flipped the switch that caused the music that was extremely loud, to come out of the headphones and the speakers. So when we saw him sitting there listening to his Beatles we just thought it was kind of funny. Fast forward to me being in my early twenties and my mother passing away when I was 25 at age 46 from cancer, years of cancer, I ended up becoming very, very low self-esteem, lack of confidence, and low self-worth because my family which on my dad's side included almost everyone an alcoholic, and I now drank to excess with them every time I saw them, because that was just what we all did. Well they were all abusive towards me when they were drinking heavily, even when they had not had really very much to drink. And all throughout my twenties, (throughout my life till now, age 52,) while I was trying desperately to find out where I fit, and get over my mother's death, I would say to myself every time I came home from drinking all night with them to the point of extreme inebriation, why do I always come home from visiting with my family with * lower* self-esteem than I had before I went? Shouldnt it be the other way around???? This happened every single time I spent time with them all throughout my twenties. So my family took advantage of the fact that they got some kind of liquid courage from the alcohol that caused them to feel that they could abuse me emotionally, and I became a binge drinker with serious addiction issues to other substances, he's right there in that I was desperate to escape the suffering, through always drinking while assciating with my family. So my trauma with my family members has occurred throughout my entire adult life, not in childhood at all. The way I perceive it, they became abusive once I was a threat: once I had what they were jealous of, my whole life in front of me, and endless potential. But they made pretty quick work of that, I was so destroyed by them I didn't have a chance at life. And I now no longer speak to either my father or my sister because of their abuses, and am instantly triggered by bullies in the workplace, etc. which is kind of ruining my life, because I don't know how to control my anger, which is usually the way I respond. And it would be great if he could also occasionally mention endometriosis! I have had this since 2007, with 8 years pain-free after a full hysterectomy. But I myself ended up bringing it back into my life when I was wrongfully terminated, and at one point experienced constructive dismissal, with my boss taking away a large part of my job when I forgot something. I took the drastic step of taking an estrogen supplement, which has caused pain to ramp up over two and a half years, and I've been on medical leave for a year almost. So. Not just childhood trauma, emotional abuse at any point, and please mention endometriosis because there is a lot to back up this illness actually being brought on by trauma.
@deedee9312
@deedee9312 3 aylar önce
It’s so easy to get sucked into your job and become a slave to it Forever ! Let go and take more vacations , visit family , find a hobby, etc ❤
@simonwinberg8604
@simonwinberg8604 11 aylar önce
This is my life If i dont heal myself next year it will be the end of me. Been severly depressed my whole adult life.
@galactictea
@galactictea 11 aylar önce
check marisa peers videos on youtube
@PVVI2015
@PVVI2015 11 aylar önce
I understand that feeling. About 20 years ago that realization hit me when I was totally exhausted from trying to keep up with what I perceived everyone wanted of me. I wanted to curl up in a corner and just quit. It was a junction and I decided to try to dig my way out. I gradually started doing more positive things and setting some boundaries. It was hard but worth the journey. I have just recently read Dr. Mate’s books and what I have learned has given a deeper meaning to my journey. So, I encourage you not to give up. Baby steps - walks, healthy nutrition, daily steps forward in taking care of yourself make a difference. Please don’t give up. This could be your turning point❤️
@LadyMarigoldWithers
@LadyMarigoldWithers 10 aylar önce
I hope you find a way out, start small and build. Just listened to Jordan Peterson/John Delony podcast yesterday, it covered lots of different aspects of life, found it really interesting and positive so recommend. Wish you lots of luck and hope in your journey, don’t give up!
@SpecialgiftsLA
@SpecialgiftsLA 9 aylar önce
Simonwinberg, this is a major turning point, at first each step you need to take will seem like a heavy feat..it will take abit of time at first but this is necessary for you to practise kmowing how to lead yourself to new True being of you which is healthy and stable, practise each morning and night talking lovingly and supportively to yourself when you are lying in bed and your body is supported and then have a few supportive phrases you feel help you. This will calm you. Trust the process and repeat a bit daily. Eventually the daily will become 3 times, or every 3hours or hour or every 15 minutes that you will sustain this new 'muscle'. Each small thing you incorporate 'as a habit,' or have different ones so if you don't do one you can pick from other ones, Focus on educating on healthy eating, applying it, walks to move and breathe and process thoughts constructively or just enjoy the feeling of it, sleep and hygien. You will see the changes and it will feel great. Now, only share your new found well being with anyone you can trust. No one else, and keep going. Sending you a hug. LA
@agalIam
@agalIam 9 aylar önce
dr. mate has the most soothing voice
@bambina3148
@bambina3148 8 aylar önce
Doesn’t he though. I love to listen to him.
@emersonrae905
@emersonrae905 5 aylar önce
we are so lucky to have him
@tamelashafer8852
Exactly!!! Everything is energy…. Everything Thoughts, emotions, actions, sounds,…. Everything… Spell-Ing
@5DNRG
@5DNRG 9 aylar önce
As a Reiki practitioner working with cancer patients, another common trait I notice is a "fixed" personality, inflexible, stubborn and balks at self-change to the point they wont regardless of outcome. Sad to watch knowing they can heal themselves with a (simple) change of mental state as Dr Mate explains here...something many people are unable to.
@evaveegee64
@evaveegee64 7 aylar önce
Wow! You should work in the hospital!! 'Knowing they can heal themselves'?? O.M.G. Tell me where your beautiful, simple planet lies, I'm flying right over! Just wondering what your own healing strategy would be the day you get cancer and being a flexible person doesn't do the trick.
@alterego7896
@alterego7896 6 aylar önce
I dont even know what I need. I was taught to be selfless. Give give give is all I know.
@anniebootboot
@anniebootboot 6 aylar önce
Mind & body are inseparable. Hate to say it, but right after a 25-minute yoga session, my depressive symptoms have alleviated
@gabriellarujsz5741
@gabriellarujsz5741 6 aylar önce
Thank you ❣️ yes, big true 🙏
@rachelkingsley668
@rachelkingsley668 9 aylar önce
The Bible command is to love others as we love ourselves! So we need to love ourselves before we can love other people - that how we know how to be loving.
@heartspacerelaxations6924
We can also do the opposite which is narccistic, obsessed with self, self improvement, etc even if not in a grandiose way. Learning non aggressive assertiveness is important.
@donnabarnes540
@donnabarnes540 10 aylar önce
I naturally always put others before myself and I’ve got cancer !!
@Mandance
@Mandance 9 aylar önce
One point I disagree on, while I do agree trauma is a big component, I think Gabor is missing the mart by not acknowledging how the food supply has heavily been degraded over time and full of chemicals, I don’t think all this chronic disease is only emotional stuff, it’s not like traumas are higher now than in previous times.
@louisa777ace
@louisa777ace 11 aylar önce
I look at it like they use bad coping mechanics to deal with the emotions Deal with the needs be authentic Disease is I'll at ease with things What things I resolved the things I had in my life loved and love me Met my needs all things changed All things change if you look after yourself
@la381
@la381 6 aylar önce
Wow, physical disorders is your spirit SHOUTING AND CRYING AND BEGGING you to look at your own feelings, emotions, and needs.
@marianasalles242
@marianasalles242 11 aylar önce
Amazing Dr Gabor💚✨🌎🌈🕊️🌱🙏🏻
@iamnotfabio
@iamnotfabio 11 aylar önce
Gabor is awesome
@iisa_bee
@iisa_bee 9 aylar önce
This is great!
@livondiramerian6999
You can't give what you don't have.
@timoe.7509
@timoe.7509 Yıl önce
Holy moly!this must be one of the most insightful talks I've ever watched....oooor the most insightful at all
@mysecretlifeofpain
Love to see the research though showing selfish people don’t get cancer and chronic pain/illness
@jasmineglein3721
@jasmineglein3721 11 aylar önce
Haha they do what they want and don't give shit what others think
@emilyb5557
@emilyb5557 9 aylar önce
Not sure the theory fits the higher autoimmunity rates in western cultures where women are far freer to look after own needs compared to some other regions with more traditional cultures. The Hygiene hypothesis might fit better. But I do believe in some contribution from emotional state/stress in some cases.
@cloudsofwonder7004
@cloudsofwonder7004 11 aylar önce
Learning to say No to my past Sociel and Sociely imposed ways of choosing to be a yes ppl pleasing and all that entails yes the mother roll is a reality that leads our female children and or male s to get stuck in robbing us of our humanity Awarness of ourselves is totally nessasary for our physical emotional mental health 🥁🥁🥁
@jamesmccarthy3724
@jamesmccarthy3724 11 aylar önce
How do you process guilt when someone else was damaged by what you did & is still suffering the consequences of that? You feeling better or rationalising it doesn't help them.
@jordanferguson2254
@jordanferguson2254 11 aylar önce
Help them.
@helenndow1101
@helenndow1101 Yıl önce
I am addicted to Gabor Mate
@zenobipowell1015
Me toooooo 😍
@suzanesugrue1080
@suzanesugrue1080 11 aylar önce
Here, Here
@circleofmoonmusic9743
So sad that so many people choose to worship Jordy Peterson over this guy.
@lisav9912
@lisav9912 10 aylar önce
Please..I blame myself for my 2 yr old daughters alopecia. Out of what I considered necessity moved my 3 children to my home state to keep them from abuse of my ex husband. Now I pray for a way to help her. I've never experienced this as a parent of 14yrs. It's only been a few months but how can I help her immune system stop attacking her hair follicles? Did I do this to her which doesn't even matter? Can I find a cure by simply appreciating her existence? I feel so helpless which also does not matter. This thing.. it's not her fault.
@emilyb5557
@emilyb5557 9 aylar önce
You didn't do it to her, that's victim blaming yourself, and you have taken her to safety too. Hopefully you can top up your own inner calm & that will have a positive effect on either her immunity or her way of coping x
@lisav9912
@lisav9912 9 aylar önce
@@emilyb5557 thank you. My Dr thinks it was her getting COVID that triggered her immune system months later. He started her on modére pure hoping for hair growth. Very kind and wise reply. I appreciate it. Afraid it might get worse cuz I'm about to go to battle with him in court. Hoping the judge sees my heart and concern in the situation.
@mariadimopoulos6663
@mariadimopoulos6663 5 aylar önce
I agree absolutely
@Plund91
@Plund91 4 aylar önce
I’m sorry to say, but people pleasing behaviour has nothing to do with loving others; it has all to do with yourself, with you being liked for being a ‘good person’. All roads points towards yourself, and even though the act - externally - is pointed towards others, there is no motivation to be authentically nice to others, but only to be acknowledged and appreciated. In other words, the pleasing or act of being ‘nice’ is directly dependant on being rewarded (as you may see when they turn on you for not duplicating their ‘niceness’). This doesn’t mean you should be tough on yourself for being like that - I myself am like that. But it’s important not to cover it up like you are this amazing person who just wants the best for all others.
@maryannestevenson5993
@maryannestevenson5993 10 aylar önce
Real good sensible truth
@noemikozma6209
@noemikozma6209 6 aylar önce
Wonderful interview. Please tell Dr Marté to take a look at doctor geerd ryje Hamer's 5 biological laws of Nature . In Hungarian barnai roberto calls it 'biologika. . Dr med budai kálman lászlo alsospreads the knowlege of the 5 biolog laws of nature which precicely explain on yand of emporical studies (out of the 80ies!!!)
@jasonh.8754
@jasonh.8754 10 aylar önce
It's a bit late to be talking about this subject, society is doomed to fail because greedy people have exploited those at the bottom far too much, for the last 20 years caring people have been expected to destroy themselves for the benefit of society.
@teresarose1038
@teresarose1038 6 aylar önce
I identify that I am like this - but what if you don’t know what your own needs are?
@PippiBarbieri
@PippiBarbieri 10 aylar önce
Yea this is called wounded healer - attempting to help others in order to avoid yourself’s basic needs
@olivermatias2349
@olivermatias2349 8 aylar önce
Thank you❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏☺️
@stevecooper3010
@stevecooper3010 11 aylar önce
Here's a thought Why do we not perceive the mind and body as one entity?
@-A-Y-A-_
@-A-Y-A-_ 11 aylar önce
Because it is the false dichotomy we have been taught (Culturally etc.)
@noboyavedagarbha5590
@noboyavedagarbha5590 9 aylar önce
Do you constantly perceive that your lungs breathe air?
@newcures7813
@newcures7813 10 aylar önce
He’s skewed in his view of women being the ones most suppressing things. My guess is that this has more to do with older women. Men seem to be suppressing quite a lot. Men also don’t live as long and have much higher rates of suicide. If a person commits suicide, they often don’t live long enough to slowly develop cancer...Everyone is suppressed to some, unhealthy extent.
@wulu3519
@wulu3519 Yıl önce
Suppressed emotion..
@hkmorhsi
@hkmorhsi Yıl önce
I think women have been somewhat forced over the few last thousand years to be agreeable, I think more men are naturally more agreeable than women, but disagreeable men were more successful because of physical power, but now women can be as disagreeable as they want (which is not always a bad thing) and succeed by smarter and more cunning ways. The gender roles and the nuclear family structure and other traditional/religious roles of women are forcing them to be the caring and supporting ones despite their psychological nature being the opposite a lot of the time, especially at ages where you probably shouldn't be (adolescence and early adulthood) if you want to grow and actualize as an individual.
@NJGuy1973
@NJGuy1973 Yıl önce
How can society start rewarding men for being agreeable?
@hkmorhsi
@hkmorhsi Yıl önce
@@NJGuy1973 Uhhhh changing society is not one of my goals lol, I just stated some observable facts thats it
@kahlodiego5299
@kahlodiego5299 11 aylar önce
Women bullying other women is sneaky, common and socially acceptable.
@hkmorhsi
@hkmorhsi 11 aylar önce
@@kahlodiego5299 yes and thats a display of what I said, women are usually more disagreeable on average by nature.
@kalankaneni
@kalankaneni 11 aylar önce
And its so very sad...
@clarabelle777
@clarabelle777 Yıl önce
And this is why I cannot and will not ever accept people being labelled. How about plain old acceptance and compassion for fellow human beings, with no agenda. Bill Hicks said stop putting a price on everything, I say that includes a ‘label’ 🙏❤️
@kathleenwharton2139
@kathleenwharton2139 11 aylar önce
Jesus Keeps me Safe and Free And Gives me Love and Peace 😇 Believe Jesus!
@NFTeve
@NFTeve Yıl önce
hello, emotions are essential, but toxins, lifestyle and just the sugar and nonfood foods that we eat, are the other causes. Electronics, disconnection to the magnetic force of the earth with plastic soled shoes. For sure, I got sick from long-term trauma~but then I got well.
@Red_1976
@Red_1976 9 aylar önce
If yu actually stop & think about what he is saying it makes so much sense.
@zakadams762
@zakadams762 11 aylar önce
as a Man I am very feminine in the sense that I want to build for nurturing, I feel extreme rage and take it out on myself to grow and make the difference but its not working
@zakadams762
@zakadams762 11 aylar önce
its so upsetting because the steps I take in any direction seemingly cut me out from what I desire
@zakadams762
@zakadams762 11 aylar önce
I want to be dominant but to raise the select group to be on that level or higher. I want to win together and feel mutual love
@zakadams762
@zakadams762 11 aylar önce
I've tried so hard to build this, I made things but never found anyone that I could confide in. I truly want more than anyone I've met, its not vanity either, I don't know what to do
@hibalimita4034
@hibalimita4034 5 aylar önce
brilliant
@susie_q1
@susie_q1 Yıl önce
Ought to explain anger vs rage as they are very different.
@TessObenauf
@TessObenauf Yıl önce
Dr. Gabor does this in a video with Tim Ferriss titled Dr. Gabor Mate - The Myth of Normal, Metabolizing Anger and Rage
@alicerose9140
@alicerose9140 Yıl önce
Only in degree. Rage may be the outcome of trying to suppress anger.
@sue8370
@sue8370 11 aylar önce
We need to stop eating suffering animals for one thing, what happens to them is shockingingly cruel
@robynhope219
@robynhope219 Aylar önce
Apparently i was a smart kid...was aware of my needs and tried to fill them as best as i could in my killing environment. This made me selfish and self preserved and unable to be a parent.
@Tatarevic23
@Tatarevic23 11 aylar önce
I like Maté, and I am on board with most of the ideas and arguments. I do have a question though. There’s been a rising in autoimmune diseases, mostly in women. Maté explains this in part because women are the ones who take care of others, partners and family. However, hasnt this caring role for women declined in late modernity, with more freedom and less defined roles for the genders? Therefore, shouldn’t autoimmune disease prevalance among women have declined, if not at least not changed? Obviously, gender roles and expectations aren’t the only things that can cause suppression of emotions, but still.
@jordanferguson2254
@jordanferguson2254 11 aylar önce
It really hasn't declined in my observations. They're expected to do the exact same, only now they have careers as well. I think a lot of women's problems would decline if they weren't so scared of being alone. That fear leads them to do absolutely anything and everything for social and male validation. I'd say work on self love, esteem, abandonment issues. Many even have kids without really thinking about it, they just do it because it's what everyone does, and they fear going against the grain because their self worth depends on external definitions and influences.
@Tatarevic23
@Tatarevic23 11 aylar önce
@@jordanferguson2254 Thanks for your input :)
@jordanferguson2254
@jordanferguson2254 11 aylar önce
@@Tatarevic23 Sure, no worries! Thanks for taking the time to read it🍀
@gogogolyra1340
@gogogolyra1340 11 aylar önce
Not only do women take care of their families, children etc., they take the added responsibility of working for 8hrs/day. And add to that high rates of domestic violence and divorce
@anja4740
@anja4740 11 aylar önce
Thank you!
@joincoffee9383
@joincoffee9383 Yıl önce
You are so kind towards women. What a contrast with Jordan perterson .
@gogogolyra1340
@gogogolyra1340 11 aylar önce
Gabor is a physician. When u encounter people suffering frm disease u learn to be compassionate.
@lewisbracken5520
@lewisbracken5520 11 aylar önce
Spoken like someone who has only watched cherry picked out-of-context snippets of Peterson 🤣
@joincoffee9383
@joincoffee9383 11 aylar önce
@@lewisbracken5520 nah, I’ve watched many of his videos, it is a theme that he wants to control, suppress and use women as objects for men’s benefit.
@mysecretlifeofpain
Wow I totally disagree with all of this. I think the rise in diseases, especially those affecting women, have many explanations, besides women being “too nice.” I can’t believe that you two, of all people, would sit there and say “this is the only explanation for the rise in chronic illness in women!” 1. There have been incredibly unhealthy major lifestyle shifts affecting all genders since the industrial revolution. I grew up in a small city full of nature and I now live in the biggest metropolis in the country. All the new apartments are paving over every square inch of dirt. There are no common areas, no green areas, no trees, no gardens, no patios. No space for people to ever be outside, see some green, see the sky, feel the sunlight, chat with their neighbors. This goes on for blocks and blocks, many areas unsafe so people can’t even go for walks. It’s depressing and scary to walk in many neighborhoods. Concrete, trash, graffiti. We have already proven the negative health effects of living without trees and access to nature. Children growing up in these neighborhoods rarely experience anything else, and this how the majority of US citizens live. People now work from home in these crammed concrete shoeboxes without sunlight. Or they commute alone in their car on clogged freeways to sit alone in a cubicle staring at a screen all day, literally sealed off from access to outside. This is a completely sedentary lifestyle, an isolated lifestyle, a detached-from-nature lifestyle, and we know for a fact that all these things negatively impact all markers for all diseases (and Dr Mate knows this!!) Then for recreation, we sit and stare at more screens, engaging passively not actively, binging Netflix, scrolling through TikTok, playing increasingly immersive video games. Everything is physically isolated from other humans, everything is using a screen. This is the biggest change since the industrial revolution. Even in spite of it, only sixty years ago, humans were more connected to each other “IRL”. People actually gathered and participated in active hobbies, in social clubs, social dancing. Being part of a community religious organization was often compulsory, often with numerous social outlets throughout the week. I’m not saying religion is the answer, but it did bring people together and create IRL community and Dr Mate knows this has major benefits to all disease markers. 2. As to “but why women?”- it is well documented that women’s pain, and illnesses affecting women, have been and STILL ARE taken less seriously in western medicine. We are still dealing with total medical ignorance regarding aspects of female anatomy and the issues that affect those structures. Women were only required to be used in clinical trials starting in the 90s. Illnesses affecting women primarily are still demonstrably underfunded and under researched compared to those primarily affecting men. Maybe we are seeing a rise in diagnoses of “women’s diseases” because there are more women in medicine and in places of societal power, who are refusing to be dismissed for what they know are real conditions. 3. We are only now finding out a little bit how TESTOSTERONE affects pain perceptions and the immune system, and it’s already documented it plays a role in pain conditions like fibromyalgia. And yet despite testosterone being a normal part of the female hormone makeup, testosterone replacement is still only FDA approved for males, as if it’s presence in female bodies is a fluke, and it couldn’t possible serve any vital purpose for us. Medications such as the birth control pill are only now being called out for causing serious long term health issues in women, such as hormonally mediated vestibulodynia, caused by the suppression of testosterone in the ovaries and the increase in sex hormone binding globulin in the liver. Most gynecologists are still ignorant about this despite plentiful research. Think of how many women you know who have been prescribed the pill not just for contraception but for all manner of health issues, and none of us have been told of the effects it can have on healthy levels of needed sex hormones. 4. Aside from enormous lifestyle changes in an incredibly short span of human evolutionary history, and the documented ill-affects they have on health; aside from the historical and current medical apathy and ignorance towards specifically “women’s issues,” aside from the role of testosterone in pain-perception and chronic illness; a fourth contributor of rising rates of chronic illnesses, just off the top of my head, is obviously going to be environmental exposure to chemicals. C’mon. Every year, we have headlines about new chemicals making people sick that regulatory agencies responsible for protecting us somehow failed to catch. We are exposed to hazardous chemicals everywhere. There have been major changes to agricultural practices, pharmaceuticals, construction, manufacturing in our society, and the EPA is constantly being threatened by corporate interests trying to de-regulate known pollutants in our air and water. Flint, Michigan. Hinkley, California. We have known endocrine system disrupters in plastics that are extremely slow to biodegrade. We have dermatitis causing allergens used in pharmaceuticals, foods, and personal care products. We have ingredients that are banned in other countries around the world used in products for babies in the US. We’re still dealing with illnesses caused by exposure to BPA, phthalates (8 times the amount found in women’s urine than men’s), cadmium, formaldehyde, mercury, lead, asbestos, creosote, and other chemicals we now know are extremely toxic but are still poisoning us. Guess what? Environmental toxin exposure is a gender parity issue!! 80-90% of those affected by environmental toxins are WOMEN. toxic exposure affects women differently. Women use more personal care products than men. Women have more adipose tissue than men to store chemicals that bioaccumulate. Women are more likely to do most of the cleaning around the house, and more likely to work in a cleaning-related job. Ex.: Studies have found higher cancer rates among people who clean for a living, and for women in particular, invasive cervical cancer is five times more common in women who clean for a living than in other women. Unique hormonal balances and other biological differences contribute to women's toxin issues. Research done on animals has indicated that males are able to detoxify their own body five times more efficiently than females, and this inequality could potentially apply to humans as well. But guess which sex is much less likely to be studied when it comes to the adverse effects of environmental toxins? You guessed it. Females. So please, men, tell me some more about how women’s personalities are the ONLY explanation for why we have more chronic illness and autoimmune disease. If I didn’t like you both and the rest of the work you do, I’d call this unbelievable oversimplification of illness in women (veering dangerously close to labeling the causes of our illnesses “hysteria”) what it looks like to me: plain misogyny.
@inga1379
@inga1379 Yıl önce
If you read his new book "The Myth of Normal" Gabor Mate addresses all the points you made
@inga1379
@inga1379 Yıl önce
@@mysecretlifeofpain Have you read the book? Im reading it now and he specifically addresses the last part of your comment here
@mysecretlifeofpain
@@inga1379 Can you paraphrase the part that addresses my comments? After what I’ve experienced, I don’t go seeking medical gaslighting. I had no idea this video was going to make these claims when I started watching it or I would have just skipped it.
@inga1379
@inga1379 Yıl önce
@@mysecretlifeofpain First, the societies we live in are sick Secondly its not about women being too nice/agreeable that makes us more prone to sicknesses especially autoimmune disorders. Its a combination of factors, such as emotional labor in the home/even work, tendency to mute our personalities/opinions in order to survive (for example, in an abusive relationship), isolation of mothers in modern society (It takes a village to raise a child...wheres the village?), surpressed trauma, higher chance of sexual abuse in lifetime And more as he details Thirdly, when we go to medical professionals they never ask "Is anything in your life causing you stress? Relationship? Family? Divorce? Workload? Past trauma? And Gabor argues the cure comes from asking those questions. So hes not a medical gaslighter, as you have deducted from this video. If you read the book youll see that he constantly affirms the unity of mind and body and how psychological stress/trauma absolutely affect the body because in reality they are one! He urges all medical professionals to ask questions around stress/trauma. Hes not blaming women for getting sick because its their fault for being too nice. He even argues that blame and guilt arent helpful at all. Remember as said earlier, the society is sick first. Im sorry that youve been gaslight. Im also a woman and have lived through my own traumas too. I enjoy reading his book and find both clarity and empowerment. You might enjoy it too
@maiwandpainda1815
@maiwandpainda1815 9 aylar önce
I understand what he is saying but what if my authentic self is not grounded, and can’t be calm when I am authentic?
@aprilnelly
@aprilnelly 11 aylar önce
I'm not certain that his supposition is correct, the past 80 years showing a rise in autoimmune deficiency in women runs parallel with feminism the rise of feminism the rise of individuation and having a career having multiple partners etc etc women are more unsupported by feminism than they were by the patriarchy
@carolpessin4006
@carolpessin4006 Yıl önce
Thank you very much
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